In Pursuit of Love Part 2

The second part of my In pursuit of Love series

"You don't love someone for their looks, or their clothes or their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear." ~ Oscar Wilde

Love Part 2: Love sees No Boundary

The pursuit of love can be daunting, exhausting and exhilarating. We may have experienced it and not even realized that we did. Then again, we may have gone through love and its roller coaster of emotions, feelings as well as let down...the broken heart. When my heart was broken because our love could not meet in the middle I was confused and bitter. I had anger in my heart where love once resided. I am not angry anymore but I do wonder if love finds me again, will I be ready? will I see it? can i accept it?

I started reading Oscar Wilde's De Profundis, quite possibly the longest, saddest most endearing love letter ever written. While I went into this thinking it would be a word vomit of endless love that completed his world, I quickly realized it was so much more than that. It was a story of forbidden love while being in love, love that was unrecognizable and not accepted. He was put on trial and incarcerated for love. He loved the wrong person according to society as their eyes were not accepting of a man who loved another man. In the 1800's we were blind to what love was, that it was more than a word but an action.

He wrote about his love, betrayal, hurt and social damnation because of who he loved. He felt so many feelings, anger, hurt, pain, solace all while sitting in prison because love was not understood. I wish I could say that we have evolved with the true meaning of love, but many in society still cannot accept that ones love goes beyond genders. Some still want to crucify, condemn and banish those who love for love, those who go beyond the forced image that love an only be between a man and a woman.

So maybe the new pursuit of love is that we accept love for what it is not what we have been bred to believe. Remember love is an intense feeling, deep affection and romantic attachment to someone...there were no lines drawn on the gender who who you love. Society should look at love with acceptance, tolerance and grace in order to finally find what love is. When I see a couple in love I do not look at gender, I look at how love is over flowing, how respect is mutual, affection is real and how they demonstrate a unity together. Many will not agree with me and that is OK, I respect opinions.

I can say that if we learn to understand love as a noun as well as an action word we will find ourselves being more open to how love has no boundaries. We can appreciate people who are in love beyond their gender. Maybe we can even learn to encompass the idea that love is so much more than a word.