Damaged Goods

Ever feel like you are so damaged you just wont fit into anyone's life puzzle? You are not alone...ohhh...guess what..we are all damaged in a way.

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, reclaimed and redeemed; never throw out anyone ~ Audrey Hepburn

The Damaged Puzzle Masterpiece

Admit it, we have all compared our damage to another person’s damage in hopes we are maybe a bit more screwed up. If you have not done that, well than stop reading you my friend are the epitome of perfect. Now for us less than perfect people read on...

I was talking with a friend and I found myself apologizing for being so damaged and unable to match his level of friendship. I did not realize I was apologizing for who I was until he said to me "Hunny...we are all damaged goods...in some way shape or form. Some more than others, be we are ALL damaged." I sat back stared at my phone and thought to myself how crazy society has become that we compare damage. Am I more damaged to the person to my right or is the person to my left even damaged at all? Maybe we need to not compare and just say it's OK we got each other, no comparison.

Social Media does not help with the comparison issue, we see people being their finest with success and think man if only they had my struggle, thing is, they have in their own way. It's like a puzzle. Each piece if a different color and shape. Some pieces have been bent, tore, chewed on (I have cats and they LOVE puzzle pieces) some even lost. Ever finish a puzzle to find the last piece is nowhere to be found. Guess what, it’s OK, or if you are me you can create a new piece to fill the gap.

So maybe if we all tried to put each other’s puzzles together we can make the damage a beautiful masterpiece. Ever see a piece of artwork that endured wars and centuries of change, it is almost never entirely intact with perfection, it has flaws, marks, scars, rips and tears. That is what makes is so exquisite. Puzzle making typically involves multiple people, unless you’re a hermit like myself, to be put together. All too often we fight over who puts the last piece in, but why? Because we all want to say we finished this amazing piece of art.

Here is a challenge for today, instead of comparing your damage, success and failures to others. Give compliments even to the ones who seem to have it all together, extend a helping hand to anyone in need. Put on blinders to their social status and be a decent human being. I mean for us religious people we say god loves the broken, are we promoting broken. I suppose that is a topic for another day.